Wise friends have since remarked that it’s easier to leave a marriage when you’ve been divorced before, and as I was Jonathan’s third wife I can only assume that he did not feel he was making an irrevocable vow when, in 2007, he promised to stay with me until death parted us.
He, however, was my only husband and I’d intended our commitment to be a lifelong one, which is why I felt so bruised and miserable after his desertion. In fact I’m among an increasing number of ‘silver’ divorcees who are bucking a national trend: while separations among younger couples are steadily falling, the over-55s is the only age group in which divorce rates continue to rise.
These days internet dating is almost de rigeur, but how anyone can chose a partner on the basis of a box-ticking algorithm beats me.
And it’s impossible to tell from one, often overly flattering, photograph if you’ll have that spark of chemistry essential to ignite a relationship.
I’m old enough to know the character traits I value most in a man, the habits I deplore and the opening gambits that would make me squirm.Since I was 18, I’ve always had a long-term partner.I met Jonathan in 2007 at the then Welsh Secretary Peter Hain’s St David’s Day party.I met Mark when we were both 18-year-old undergraduates at Cardiff University — he lived in the accommodation block just below mine — and we were together for 18 years.Mark is related to the Duke and Duchess of Devonshire, whose family seat is Chatsworth House in Derbyshire, but it wasn’t his illustrious heritage that impressed me.If you want to request an autograph, follow the guidelines bellow.