Though Confucian tradition permits the husband to take lesser wives (theoretically to be chosen for him by the first wife), economic realities (and relatively innocuous modern laws) would force him to be content with one at a time.
O’Harrow (1995) reports also that to give a woman a piece of fine jewelry in Vietnamese tradition is to help confirm her independence as a human being, and for a mother to hand over a piece of her jewelry to her daughter is a universally understood gesture, for which the subtext is "may this protect you from misery." Nowadays, divorce is increasingly easy to obtain.
Traditionally, children lived with their parents until marriage, and then the couple moved to the husband's father's household.
The extended family arranged marriage, but individuals were usually consulted on the choice of their mate.
In return, his compensation was comparatively small: a tobacco jar, for example, a box for betel nuts, or a cigarette case.
The wedding ceremony was quite simple: The future husband and wife met, mutually offered themselves to each other, and chewed betel nut together.
Marriage is regarded as being permanent and brides are expected to be virgins when they get married.
Couples have traditionally been expected to marry within their village and class with marriage to cousins or within the extended families being frowned upon.
This is often done by a Buddhist monk who practices the art.So, within a family you will see different last names.But the children will carry the father's last name.After the wedding party, the bride goes to live with her husband's family.The Kinh attach much importance to fidelity and the virtues of the bride.Women are generally expected to be married at a relatively young age and to have children frequently thereafter.