“Allison may have had a sense of intimacy that was never there in the first place, while he was probably dating other people,” he says.Don’t assume someone is going to be committed unless you’ve talked about it. After a few dates with a guy, you feel like this could lead to something, when suddenly he falls off the face of the earth.Or it’s been months—he’s even uttered the word “girlfriend”—and out of nowhere he says he’s not ready for a relationship.Fast forward a few months, and the family friend let it slip that the guy was just dumped by a girl he’d been dating for months.He must have been dating her right when he got quiet with me.” -Chrissy O., 29Expert take: Many guys are okay with dates and sex, but when it comes to weekends away or spending time with other couples, those that have a fear of intimacy can act weird.
Her take: “I was set up with a family friend, and we really hit it off.
After he arrived at my place, he got a phone call saying his grandmother was being sent to the emergency room. When I went onto Facebook within a few days to see how his family was doing, I noticed he changed my status to ‘limited profile,’ so I couldn’t access everything on his page.
After that, all communication from him died.” -Allison G., 26Expert take: Social media can create transparency and a false sense of familiarity, Kerner says.
Her take: “While out with friends, I met a guy who lived 100 miles away.
We talked, texted, and connected online almost daily until we could see each other again two months later.