What can you and your children agree on regarding their interactions with the opposite sex? Here are some insights to help Christian men date in a way that honors God.“Intentional” is one of those words that sounds right, but no one really knows what it means. Here is my working definition for intentional and how it relates to how a Christian man should pursue a woman.Foreplay is designed for one purpose: to build the desire to have sex, which it does well.Think of foreplay like and freeway on-ramp: it’s purpose is to transition you to full speed.We know how blessed we are and thank God for His grace. Thank you, Lord, for this great blessing — these wonderful, fallen-and-forgiven people who love you and love me and my family.Parents can learn from each other, and seek guidance from the church leadership and older, experienced parents. They don’t have to face the challenges of their children’s romantic interests without support. Thank you for their profound effect on my children and on the households they are forming.(Photo: It’s never too early to start preparing your children for godly romance.Come to think of it, I think another family courtship had its beginnings at camp, too.Our third-born son chased his future wife (or at least her sister)I know not everyone is privileged to enjoy the rich Christian community that our children have grown up in.
I smile every time I remember another married young man knowingly telling me during one of those evening gatherings that, “A guy’s never more charming than when he’s courting.”That same courtship was bookended with another family camp that finished just one week before the wedding day. His future bride’s parents took him aside and told him he could start courting her later that summer, And then there’s the wedding we’re planning for the end of this summer.
I remember doing the handsewing on my mother-of-the-bride dress during chapel services and putting programs together with a group of ladies while we visited together. He’d had his girl picked out for years, but he was still trying to finish up his schooling. That courtship started at this camp last June, when Peter and Susannah first noticed how much they shared in common in their love for Jesus.
It wasn’t very long before we got a call asking permission to get to know our daughter better, and now they’re engaged, planning their very community-focused wedding, and happily working together as official camp photographers for the week.
He is the one who brings any good from our efforts as parents.
There are a lot of different ideas about courtship out there, and our own experience with five different courtships has confirmed the fact that every courtship isdifferent.