In real life, a girlfriend who turned out to be a narcissist thought the world of me, came to me for advice, and would do anything for me; she was so like me, and so perfect until the cracks began to show. But they are masters, if you don’t know better, at getting you hooked. And there is no doubt that it is not a good idea to depend on the strength of your feeling for a narcissist, but to listen to your gut. Unless you educate yourself you will never be free of their toxic enmeshment. Getting into their head means trying to figure out their motives, trying to make excuses for them, trying to rationalise their behaviour, trying to manipulate them, and especially getting sucked into the content.This feeling of “love” that we have is more intense than normal because first they flood you with expressions of love and then they withhold and then they give a little, and over time this changes our brain chemistry- it’s a form of manipulation, control and brainwashing. What happens with these types is that we get so caught up in the feeling and don’t listen to the alarms and red flags that usually guide our way. Educate Yourself The most important thing you need to do is learn everything you can about the disordered and how they operate. Because they don’t think and feel as we do, we cannot treat them like we do “normal” people/ourselves. You are worn out and sick because your psyche and body are telling you there is something terribly wrong when there is an illusion of everything being right (because s/he tells you so) and this is a very hard thing to accept. When you catch yourself, wrench yourself away from it and think about something else.Furthermore, these traits must cause functional impairment and/or subjective distress.
To meet the diagnostic requirement of a personality disorder, these traits must be inflexible; i.e., they can be regularly observed without regard to time, place, or circumstance.
The aggressive features of this personality disorder make it stand out among other personality disorders as individuals with this disorder take a unique toll on society..
Their behavioral style often gets in the way of truly intimate relationships, but it is also the case that they are uncomfortable being alone.
The symptoms cause The above list only briefly summarizes these individual Cluster B personality disorders.
Richer, more detailed descriptions of these disorders are found in the section describing the four core features of personality disorders.