They agreed that the second either one wasn’t feeling it anymore, they’d be upfront about it and the relationship would end, full stop: no unnecessary drama. When you get to the point where you feel your relationship might take precedence over your career, then you can re-evaluate things. Secretly making out in the elevator at work and then stopping the second you get to your floor is a fantasy everyone has, and you have the opportunity to make it happen. And yes, I know, this is the part where everyone wants to chime in and tell me about that couple they know who met at work and are now happily married with 15 kids. I remember discussing this a couple of years back with some young man on Reddit, who was considering asking a coworker out.He said he wasn’t worried because all of his previous relationships ended well, and he remained friends with all of his exes.Let’s face it, especially as we get older, much of our time revolves around our careers.
So if you find yourself in that situation, here is my free advice for how to proceed with dating a co-worker: Yeah, no, sorry, but I say don’t do it. In fact, my mother and stepfather are one of those couples (I’ll get back to that), so I know it CAN work sometimes. In my humble opinion, the potential problems that could arise if things go wrong in your relationship, is generally not worth risk.
You might love your family member, but you know that what they’re doing is harmful.
You may not want to admit that it’s happening, or you may just feel like cutting them out of your life. Relationships with family members can be complicated, and if someone is behaving abusively, that makes things complicated.
If you’re considering hooking up with someone you work with (even if “considering” = creepily staring at from across the room, completely unbeknownst to that person), I strongly advise you read these tips first. One of the great injustices of society is that most of us are expected to show up someplace 5 days a week and perform a task in exchange for money.
It sucks, but until we all leave to form a Utopian Society on Mars, that’s the way it’s going to be. “My ex-girlfriend would come to my office, and when I told her I was busy, she would get offended,” said one guy I talked to.